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Monday, May 23, 2011
When I was young ,I asked my mother; what should I be ,will be;
Would I be pretty , will I be chic, that's what my mother said to me.....
Que Sera Sera....
NOW is the time to be...
Live through this moment to see,how pretty and chic you'll be...
Then one day; I asked my mother ,what should I be, will be;
Would I be happy, will I be rich ,that's what my mother said to me...
Que Sera Sera...
What ever will be ,will be,
The future is'nt our's to see ,
Que Sera Sera.
All your life ,remember my daughter,
What ever you want ,you'll be,
What's to be pretty , what's to be rich,
Why should you worry, what to be.
Que Sera Sera..
NOW is the time to be,
Love through this moment to see,
How good and happy you'll be.
I love this life,just like my mother,
Never worrying what'll be ,will be,
Dancing and singing,loving and living,
That's how's my life and it'll be....
Que Sera Sera
What ever will be ,will be
The present is all to see,
Que Sera Sera.
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Life is a roller coaster ride. It gives you jerks at the most unexpected of times.We then try to explain them, justify them but rarely try to accept and then react to them.We act on impulse and most of the times keep proving Newton's law that every action has an equal and opposite reaction. Needless to say the outcome depends on the reaction.So is it not so very important to react wisely? Yes it is.
Imagine being lost in the woods. There would be different reactions from different people. Some would cry, some would scream for help,some would fall prey to the predators,some would perish out of starvation etc etc...mostly all of them would have one thing in common;the fast engulfing fear and what would that lead to? Inactivity of brain or rather inability to think clearly. Very few peoplewould hold on to their faith and thinking power,but the ones who would do, would be the ones who would keep on exploring one way after the other, relentlessly, till they actually find it.
Similarly in life , we need to keep exploring our selves,our hearts. We should keep asking ourselves the purpose of our wants, desires and goals . Then we could set out to find ways to fulfill them, achieve them.The ways need to be constantly evaluated,explored. We would find many ways that may not lead to our destination, but the people who keep on evolving in this process of search start transforming their own lives. The ones who set out with faith in themselves, take the failures as new things learnt ,thus getting enriched in their knowledge leading to clearer paths with clearer vision.Each fall gives them a new bounce. Bigger the fall higher the bounce. And this bounce adds to their courage and strength.Higher the bounce higher they reach in their lives. But most importantly their transformed lives make them a much better and stronger person.
As they say and rightly so , the person who has seen the most failures ,has a higher probability to success for the simple reason that he has done away with more of his share of failures .Actually what differentiates the super achievers from others is, the unmatched number of failures indicating so much higher frequency in putting in efforts and also so many paths experienced hence a substantial increase in knowledge add. In the process the fear to fail disappears and the excitement to dare tread unknown grounds and explore ,takes place. His enriched life has wonderful pads to absorb greater shocks and living becomes so much more meaningful...purposeful.
Then as they say the journey of life itself becomes so much exhillarating ,enriching and rewarding than the destination itself for they have learnt the power of BOUNCE.
Thursday, March 24, 2011
How many of us really understand them? Very few..
Actually most of the disorders are some very common negative traits ,that are present in almost each one of us, developing into unmanagable proportions leading to chaos in one's life.
The negative traits could be anger,impulsiveness, greed,jealousyetc .These are very much present in every human being but the ones who have control over them are prevented from a messy life but the unfortunate ones who are unable to balance these emotions are taken for a ride and have to pay very dearly in life.
There are many reasons that why certain people fail to strike a balance between their positive and negative emotions in life and end up with a life like a heavy load truck ,with brake oil leaking while a steep descent.
Without going into the reasons,one thing that is universally accepted by all scientists,psycologists,is that the environment of the people plays a huge role in the outbreak of a disorder. For example say two people with high levels of similar negative traits, would have different types of lives if kept in different environments. The one who grows in a happy environment, will have a very high probability of being able to pass off his life much smoothly than the one thrown in a not so happy environment.
An unhappy environment would be more condusive to the growth of those negatives that would take alarming proportions in life where as a happy environment dampens the negatives ,allowing the positives to rule leading to a less problematic life.
This may seem to be known to most of us but very few practise the same.
Being negative about anything would lead to negative reactions resulting to a not so happy environment.
That does not mean we accept negativity, all we need to do is to react sensibly.Our sole aim should be to try to be happy in all situations, at the same time ,trying to better self that would then lead to growth and development of oneself ,always maintaining a pleasant and happy aura around where others would be comfortable and relaxed,where they would want to be in any frame of mind.
Being happy in the Present is essential . It is not wise to delay it for the Future for we have the Present ...could anyone get hold of Future?
So it is always wiser to take care of our Present in the best of our capabilities and then guess what...
the future should never trouble us.
So be happy NOW for that is all that we can be sure of.
You may just be very pleasantly surprised at the most unexpected times to realise the far reach and extent of the Happiness of 'Now' and needless to point out the other side of the coin....unfortunately that is what is so visible all around and we find people so desparately grappling for answers that elude them and drive them crazy.
Be Happy and build a Happy Environment for all around you ...far and near and do they not say what you give comes around????????
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
We are gifted LIFE.
What we do with it, is our personal choice and this choice is the direct transformation of how precious is this gift to us.
We hear the typical 'wants from life'.
We hear 'life has been unfair to me'...'life is so cruel'...bla...bla....bla....
We keep talking of the countless things that we did not get from life.We feel unhappy.
What is then the measure of LIFE?
I believe how much we value life truely is the measure of life. Now by value I mean how much we understand and practise the integrated and comprehensive pattern of life rather than having a narrow 'I' approach to it.
My measure for life is how much more I value others than me....how much happier I am to help others ...serve others.In order to be able to do so I would automatically work myself to keep expanding my limits of ability.
When my thinking revolves around the parameters of not hurting my loved ones to even not so loved ones,doing things that bring joy to the people assosiated to me ,directly and indirectly,I would consider myself to be filling my cup of life with the right fill for that would definetely lead to my own happiness.
So the tree of life that starts with a very strong and clear' I' branching off along with the other 'I's as well, keeps growing larger and stronger by day,giving shade to the tired and shelter to the needy has it's roots growing deeper and deeper braving the greater storms in life ...
How big and branched is your tree of life could be the measure for life.
This alone would be my measure for life.
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
It is destressing
-you get unconditional love
-you get unconditional acceptance
-they teach you to love
--they make you a better human being
I agree to all of this and so my understanding is that people want pets so that
-they can destress
-they can do what ever they'd want to but still would get love from their pets
-they can be what ever they are...good ,bad, noble ,evil....they d be accepted
-do they really teach us love? I doubt ... they show us how to love but do we learn???
-this is the trickiest....they make you a better human being? A human being who is not ready to give in love...only demands?...Someone who does not care to fit into the desired parameters of right and wrong and still demands acceptance?Someone who does not want to be accountable to his loved ones??
I do not understand how can such a person be termed a good human being?
Having expensive dogs, posing pictures with them and attending pet carnivals do not make a good human being.
It is just flaunting your money in the most insensitive manner.
Am I against pets? Good God NO!!!!
I love animals but not only the expensive ones. I love all animals . I care for them and for me caring is understanding them.
My heart breaks to see pets being petted for the pleasure of man alone. They are confined to small flats with no space to be themselves.
Loving animals truely is loving Life itself.
There goes a famous Qn Ans....
why do you talk of loving animals when we do not love man himself...being so ruthless to each other? The ans was that loving animals is working at the roots.
How true...Is love so confusing?
Is not Love
to care for others- you can do that only if you come out of your comfort zones naturally ,willingly.
to be sensitive to others -you can only do that by trying to put yourself in the other's shoes
to put YOU before the I-you can only do that if you accept that YOU as a part of your I
Love is simple.
It is not different for different people.
Love alone has the power to make a person truely happy.
Love alone makes a good strong human being. Only a strong person can Love truely....be it loving animals or loving human beings for Love is Life itself.
So for me Heavy Petting stands for one of the so many luxuries in life of man...let us not glorify it with any other reasons.
I wonder if the Heavy Petters pet their own family the same way ....I have not seen anyone doing that...in fact they turn to Heavy Petting because of failed human relationships.
A good Human Being is someone who knows to build relationships and nurture them all along and yes if we want we can learn from the animals the lessons of Love.....
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
We talk of the first two because we like them but we never remember the third because she is not liked by anyone. What we do not keep in mind is that much as we hate her we can not disassosiate her from her twin sibling-Lakshmi..
Both of them exist together and are inseparable.
Lakshmi stands for wealth and prosperity .
Alakshmi stands for anything and everything that is negative-lust,greed,jealousy and all of the same family.
So man craves for Lakshmi,finds ways to get her without ever realising that he gets a package -the inseparable twins together.
Both the sisters manifest themselves in man's life simultaneously ,leaving him in a state of fix - the more he wooes Lakshmi the unhappier he becomes. He fails to understand the reason because he never tries to understand clearly the nature and characteristics of the goddesses that he has been worshipping.
So does that mean Lakshmi is bad?
No way !
She is wonderful!
We must worship her but she has a brilliant sister who we forget. That is our mistake. We must understand her sister Saraswati's virtues.
Saraswati represents Knowledge that leads to Wisdom.
Knowledge is the information accumulated over a period of time through various resources.
Wisdom is learning to assimilate and use that knowledge for our good.
Saraswati is the only one who can teach us the right value and use of her own sister Lakshmi,towards our good.
Saraswati is the only one that can teach us to protect ourselves or rather dodge Alakshmi while enjoying her twin Lakshmi.
If we have Saraswati in our lives Lakshmi is sure to be there ,only in all her glory and purity firmly restraining Alakshmi.
Alas! Without knowing all these three Goddesses completely ,we get carried away by the dazzling Lakshmi and ignoring Saraswati or not giving her the deserving value ,we end up in the clutches of Alakshmi- fighting, hating, killing and dying an unfullfilled unhappy life.
So He Maa Saraswati! Lead us from darkness to light....the light of Wisdom!!!!
Let us bless our youngsters with Wisdom.
We generally bless them with success, wealth,happiness.
Anybody who acquires Wisdom will have all the above mentioned naturally.
So may I wish Wisdom to all?
Monday, February 21, 2011
" Guess who I met today on my walk?''bursted Parvati''Khushi and Santosh!!!! I met them near Mansarovar...and you cant believe what I found them doing?They were meditating!!!!''
''I asked Khushi how could they afford to be there for were they not the most sought after on Earth?''
''We are on an off site''answered Khushi''along with my friend and colleague Santosh.''
''Off site? for what ?''
''To introspect,analyze our fast dwindling presense in the market .We have been told to identify the cause and come up with steps to deal with it. That is what we are doing here ,unsuccessfully so far ,though.''Khushi was really stressed. She pointed out to a far hidden cave where she said Santosh was in deep introspection.
''I don't understand''said an exasperated Parvati''people on earth do not want Khushi and Santosh any more? How can that be possible? I believed they were timeless in demand.'''
Finally getting a chance to speak Shiva said,''This is what you call Globalization. The market now suddenly is flooded with too many products. It is very natural to try those ,thanks to such agressive marketing. When the people try all ,face their effects then slowly they could come back to their old loyalities. Let me also tell you Parvati,our darling daughters have a big role to play in this transition.''
''You blaming our daughters for this? How can you?'' asked an angry Parvati.
''No no , I dont blame them . I said they also have a role to play in it.''smiled Shiva patiently.
''My darling Lakshmi , Saraswati...you just say anything''.Spoke the hurt mom.
''You are forgetting the twin? Alakshmi?''asked Shiva?''
''Lets go and eat ,I am famished''said Shiva guiding his confused wife to the table......
It was my first such experience. I was a bit apprehensive about it keeping in mind my physical limitations ,but it was all because of my husband's belief that I also held on to my belief and I actually could do it .
On our way back as we were walking to the station to board a train,we saw a man in his early forties ,may be,limping ahead of us. He was carrying his shoes in his hands and was walking barefooted. While crossing past each other ,we smiled . He smiled back (how beautiful is a warm happy smile...I just cant understand why such a simple precious thing is not so frequently seen!)
I asked him that why was he walking barefeet when the feet were apparently in pain.
He said that he had made some mistake in evaluating his new shoes so had developed a nasty shoe bite....
I smiled and said' Must be paining hell of a lot..could we be of any help?''
He smiled back thanking us for offering help and said,;;Not at all. Yes it is paining quite a bit but it is a HAPPY PAIN.I am feeling so happy after running the marathon that I do not mind this pain.''
I loved the phrase...''Happy Pain''.
Anything that we do ,by choice, for the purpose of joy , can be assosiated with the phrase.
Everything demands a price ...so it is always wiser if we try to be clear and sure of our actions...what ever they are -so that they lead to happiness and what we experience then would be ''Happy Pain''