Sharing is caring or sharing is a beautiful way of caring. It strengthens the bond between people and is one of the most effective ways to nurture relationships.I have somehow always valued this very highly and have practised all through my life ...ofcourse it takes two to share ...and also not everyone can share much as they would want to . There could be many reasons for that which we can talk about some other time ...let us now only talk of the fruits of sharing..
Actually sharing is speaking your thoughts aloud to someone who you love more importantly trust. Trust that the person will not judge you ...will not belittle you ...ridicule you and very importantly never hold it or use it against you...in it's true sense sharing happens between people who also want to find solutions to their problems,confusions and what happens that by sharing even if they do not find all the solutions they restore their strength to find the same.How? Well when you talk you let your steam out ...that is the first advantage. Then you yourself hear your talks and that gives a lot of clarity to the situation. Thirdly you get another point of view in the matter which you may choose to agree or disagree. We all know but we forget that every single action will have different reactions from different people...do we ask ourselves why? because our perceptions would be different...sharing helps in evaluating those perceptions...It teaches us very subtly that we too may think wrong so sharing gives us a probability to correct that wrong.
Surprising as it may sound so...sharing too needs to be taught...right from the very beginning of our lives ...gently and through practice. I remember that when I was in my teensI would have this strong urge to share my thoughts and generally that was not the done thing those many years back. Children were always supposed to replicate their elders in as many ways as they could and asking questions was a big dare .... I had vowed to myself that I would bring this wonderful word into my life with the people I could and on practising that for life my convictions have grown stronger..
I can so clearly visualise the days when our children were school going and I would wait for them to come back ...they would enter all dusty ,redfaced sweating with big school bags on their backs ....they could not wait to start off with so much to tell ...all that had happened during the whole day and some rare days if I was preoccupied pat would come the complain that I was not interested....even the sight brings back such warmth...we would talk..while they would change ...eat and that continued ...probably the generation gap as they say was not so pronounced in our case , a lot because of this wonderful word called sharing....
I taught them through practising it myslf...by doing this you always have a channel open between the two and things and thoughts keep flowing...it spares you a lot of undesirable stress and negativity in thoughts.you can think clearly , rationally if you have a sounding board...life is too too precious to take the wrong chances ...at least we should try consciously to better our life ...minimise problems it is like tending to a garden . If you want a wonderful garden besides so many things like the right seeds.. .the right manure ...the right amount of water etc. deweeding is also very important ...this deweeding of our minds can be done pretty effectively with the help of this tool called SHARING... ...Just go ahead ...try doing it with the people you love ...it may not be easy to start with but it wouldnt be all that difficult too, provided the will to make your life more beautiful remains....
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