All The Best...

Aditya was working very hard. He had his class xii boards coming up ...then the engineering entrances ...he had his own dreams and was putting his heart and soul to fulfill them. He was pretty satisfied with his preparations but ...there was a big BUT ...it was chemistry . He just wasnt able to get as much confidence in this subject. This would haunt him off and on and he would come up to Reeti ,'' Mom what if I mess up this subject? ''and Reeti would draw him close to herself and say,''Do not worry ,Aditya ...you wont mess it up. You are putting in so much of hard work ...that will not go waste.'' This assurance had the desired effect on him but for not too long. Reeti was also worried about her son's confidence and did everything to keep it up.

The exams started...as luck would have it Reeti was taken seriously ill....out of the blue came the bolt...she had to be hospitalised in grave condition. Reeti was in pain...but what was paining her more was that she could not be with her son when he needed every bit of comfort and love...He was writing his exams ....taking care of his little sister Ria....and his mother was fighting for her life ..in the hospital with her husband by her side. what adifficult time it was for each one of them but God had wished it so....

The days went past by ...exams were getting over ..and tomorrow was Chemistry. Reeti was going out of her mind. In such grave situations where Reeti would never let her husband out of her sight for he was her strength....he always was her confidence but that day with a very strong heart she forced her husband to go and spend some time with Aditya. He returned after a few hours assuring her of Aditya...The children had sent hand made cards with heart felt messages...Ria had sent two small soft toys...two pups...as her luck charms...All of this filled Reeti;s heart with joy....But....still she had no peace..Those days the mobiles were even not heard of ..she was confined to bed with needles all over and a saline continously going into her veins....There was a telephone just outside the room but how could she reach there ? with all these needles? Reeti was very restless...

Came the evening and in walked her Dr. doing his usual rounds...after her check up Reeti asked him if she could do without the drip now? The Dr. was surprised but when he heard that why Reeti was wanting to go up to the phone he said kindly,''Reeti be patient and sensible please. Two more of these bottles need to be pumped inside your body which would take at least till tomorrow evening...so please understand ..the speed of the saline cannot be increased as it will be very painful for due to prolonged usage most of the veins are blocked so please be a good patient.'' THe Dr. smiled and went away. Reeti had already made up her mind. The next 24 hrs. would have to be compressed into 10..and that had to be done...She slowly increased the speed of her saline ...she did it gradually ...it hurt but no the excitement had started ...she had a race to win and that kept her from feeling the pain. Reeti did not sleep the whole night....7 Am Aditya would leave for his exam...just a few hours to go and the liquid was steadily pouring inside her veins....Her eyes were fixed on the solution level ..they only moved to check on the clock on the wall...It was 6:55 Am when the sister came in and smilingly removed the saline...Reeti was out of herself ...She was literally carried out of the room by her husband to the phone...it was ringing...God please make him pick up ....and then ''Hello'' ''All the very best to you beta''came a feeble voice and Aditya stood there smilingly with tears rolling down his eyes...''Mamma I love you''''I love you too beta''and Reeti fell down in her husband's arms ..She had done it ..she had wished her son and she thanked God before she was carried back to bed.....

Stress...The Silent Killer

Each man is a link and an important one at that, to the society he is a part of.I keep hearing of this word-Stress at various levels, from various ages and from uniformly everywhere. I think stress is consequence of a situation where there is a lack of resourses to do the job.Sources could be varied ...could be the person ,his want , his understanding , his capacity,his efforts ,his supports etc...all of which work to get the job accomplished. This unaccomplished job with time gets piled up increasing our problems and then come the excuses , blames and their kin to justify our failures...making us aggressive in protecting our defence.Clinging to this state day in and day out tires our mind and this is what we call stress.All these blames and justifications do not lead us to our desired goal ,infact take us so much away from it increasing our unhappiness and helplessness. Ironically we take to cribbing and self pity and every undesired feeling leading to more and more stress. Why cant we think of Solutions ? we keep ourselves happily stuck with the problems...if only we become solution seekers,the results will be so much better than otherwise. If we understand the responsibilities of self ,we can do a lot better . If each one of us is always aware of his own duty towards his own self ...to keep oneself happy then all these selves together can lead to a much better society. But what we all tend to do is always holding others responsible for our situations . Of course no one can be isolated from his surroundings but h e at least can keep doing his bit even when everyone around has stopped?
Another strange thing that I see is the mix up between our Rights and Responsibilities which also is a chief cause to stress. We have to understand that each one of us is responsible for his own self and that is how it should be...as naturally as we eat ,drink and sleep.Achild should be spoken as to why is he being helped with all his work during his early days ... but he should be told that he has to learn to be responsible for his self..he should know that he has to go to school to learn ...do all his jobs because they are ...his...taking care of his clothes , toys .books ,room table shoes ....everything has to be done by his own self because that should be as natural as anything to do .But do we do that ? No we do our children's jobs...odd things here and there conveying that he has no need to tend to himself .The child should be taught to manage his work , duties ,play, pleasure properly and that he has no option of not accepting his duties. ...the child then learns to optimize himself. Then they dont feel burdened at any point of time because doing their duty becomes a second nature to them . Probably then we may hear a lot less of this contageous word -stress-It makes so much sense in breaking one's head to find solutions to our problems rather than breaking it due to stress...what say????????